Now.

From the early stages of our lives we are told to do certain things that our future self will thank us for. Society tells us how we have to behave today, so tomorrow can be better. And how we can learn from the past, so we won’t make the same mistakes in the future again. 

So basically I have been focusing on my past (to learn from it) and my future. Every day I am working hard towards my future goals, which, don’t understand me wrong, can be a great thing. But what if we are so stuck in working so hard towards our future, that we never really reach the actual future we were looking for. We tend to overlook how far we have come and not realise that we might have already reached certain goals we have been working on 5 years ago. 

Today. Today, I am in Barcelona. 4 years ago, I have always wanted to come here. And I never thought it would be possible. But here I am. I am on my way of receiving a double degree in Business Management and Marketing, which allowed me to literally travel the world. Which I have also been dreaming about 4 years ago. And many many years ago I have always dreamt of meeting my biggest inspiration, and I did. 

But why do I keep wanting more? Why is ‘today” never enough for me and I feel like I have not accomplished anything? 

I have been trying to figure it out and well I guess I just live too much in the future or/and the past, like most of us. But it is definitely not our fault, because that is what we have been taught. Since this small realisation of mine, I am trying to change the direction of my thoughts, trying to live in the moment, trying to be thankful everyday for what I have reached so far. Of course keeping in mind my future, and working with the intention to always reach the goals I have set myself. 

But, no one knows what the future holds and no one knows how their story is written. 

With love,

Jess x

Life is a journey of lessons.

A few weeks ago I was on a hype. You know when you are on a really good wave in life! That wave keeps getting bigger, because it seems like life is getting better. Everything I have ever imagined was becoming a reality.

It even scared me. A moment came where I was wondering when this amazing wave would end. Well maybe I shouldn't have. Apparently everything we imagine, we attract.

And here we are. One bad message keeps following another and the amount of information that keeps hitting me daily is overflowing the capacity of the pot I am carrying around.

I am getting to a point where I start asking myself what the purpose of all this is. I know life is supposed to teach us something. But sometimes when we think we have actually achieved something in life, we might be woken up the very next moment, realising it was not at all what we have imagined. And one saying pops up in my mind.  Not everything that shines is gold.

Sometimes we keep doing things, which in our eyes seem right, but through another person might not think that way at all.

And it all leads us to one thing: life is a journey of lessons. Things happen which we can't control even though we wish we could. We will do things that primarily seem right to us, which at the end are not at all. But we will never know if we don't try, right?

But the most important thing is to not blame ourselves for some things, which we can't repair or do differently. Because this is what life is about.

With love,

Jess x

About being self centred.

The world is moving so fast.

So, so so fast. That sometimes we can't catch up. At least I can't.

Everyday we are confronted with so much information, that I feel like that is not enough time to process it all. With this, it gets so easy to become self centred, to forget that there is more than just us with our irrelevant, tiny problems.

There is the world.

The world, which is filled with pain, war and poverty.

OR

The world, which is filled with beauty, diversity and humanity.

Which one do you choose? Which one do you want to be surrounded by? Which one do you want to get inspired by?

Let me guess? It is the second one.

But why do we sometimes get caught up in a self centred mindset, where all that matters is us. And we forget that we live with other. And that we are part of other people's lives and vice versa. And that we affect others more than we can imagine.

Open your eyes! Pack your bags and start feeling the world. It has so many more wonderful things to offer than we all can imagine. I am certain about that.

With love,

Jess x

The constant pressure of having to be perfect.

Being perfect is something so absurd and unreal. What is even perfect? What is its definition? I googled it.

having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.

"As good as it is possible to be." See! What is "possible"? What does it mean?

One person might understand it differently than the other.  Everyone has a different perception of things.

We are confronted by so many people telling us daily that we need to be productive and get somewhere in life, quick! Because time is running.. time which we will never get back.

So well that's what we do, every day we hustle. At least the ones that have ambitious goals!

But then.. there is days when the hustle stops to make sense, when all the energy is gone, and all the motivation lost. We start to loose faith, we start to believe we failed.. We failed in everything we wanted to achieve. And we don't see the end of these draining days.

How do you get yourself out of it? Will you ever get yourself out of it?

I believe we do get out of it. It's human, isn't it? We can't constantly be perfectly following our goals that we have been setting ourselves. It is almost impossible, we can try, but we might eventually fail. We need those days, when everything goes to shit, to appreciate the moments, when everything is great again.

With love,

Jess x

Don't rush it. That's what everyone has been telling me.

I am a very impatient person. VERY impatient. I need everything right now!
Which at times surely can be a good thing, cause I go out and get what I want. But life doesn't work that way. Sometimes all we can do is wait. We can work hard towards a goal, but sometimes pushing too hard can just cause more damage.

I am writing this post to actually try to implement what I am about to say. Why?
Because I feel like I am kind of lost at this stage. I have so many goals and dreams in front of my eyes, that they are all just floating around and I have lost the clear path which I have had in front of my eyes for so long.

But I am starting to understand that it is okay. That I am also at a stage, where trying new things is part of growing and getting to know yourself. Only with this kind of feeling, we can slowly find the right way which we want to go in the future. Don't regret anything and take every opportunity that comes along the way. You have all the time in the world and most importantly

DON'T RUSH IT!

With love,

Jess x

Don't force it.

And I mean it. Don't force anything, that isn't suppose to happen in your life. Friendships, Relationships or any other kind of stuff, that seems like it does not come natural.

Just too many times we want something so much, that we get lost in it and we loose so much energy for something that at the end was never worth our time.

I get caught in these situations, not a lot, but every now and again. And it is kind of upsetting and disappointing at first. Especially if you really set your mind on something, but everything you do is not working out the way you imagined it.

So this post is just a quick reminder: remember who you are, remember what you want and do not be distracted by situations that won't bring you any further and won't make you grow.

With love,

Jess x

Successful people build each other up, or not?!

There is this thing, created by our society, which is called competition and which humans believe to be a good thing. 

A good thing, in order to be successful.

But let me tell you one thing, it is wrong to think that way. I mean, well... do what you want, you don't need to listen to what I have to say. But trust me, my little brain wants to say a lot. And especially about this topic. Because it upsets me.  

I am a single child. And no, I am not selfish or spoiled. I was taught not to. Yes, my parents have always supported me in everything I wanted to do, but still. They are not wealthy, have never been and probably never will. They have literally worked (and still do) their butts of to create a better future for their child, me. And I am more than thankful for that.

For this reason, I have also been taught to work hard for myself, to be a better version of myself, for myself. For no one else. And comparing your success to another person's success is not healthy. On the opposite, it can make you depressed.

But for some reason this society was created under the perception that competition is the only way to go. Just look at sports events for example, it is always about being better than your opponent. And yes, it might be needed in one way or the other and it can also be fun.

But there is a fine line between healthy and unhealthy competition. 

And unhealthy competition in my eyes is, when your mental health is involved. Being mentally healthy is so so so important, but we keep destroying it with things like that. Don't you think? I mean as I mentioned before, it might just be my small brain bursting out all my thoughts at the moment.

I am speaking from experience, though. Most people do not want you to succeed, they want you to fail, most of the time. 

Why? If another person succeeds it won't make you any worse, will it? 

Your success is not defined by another person's success, but it only lies in your own hands. 

With love,

Jess x

To those who never give up - dreams DO come true!

The people that know me, know that I have been obsessed with Shakira since I could literally walk, think or speak. With obsessed I mean, that she has had a huge impact on my life, my actions and on who I am today. She has inspired me in many ways, and for this reason I am very thankful.

So since my obsession with this woman started, I have been wanting to meet her. And that became one of my biggest dreams. A dream that I have been trying to accomplish for 16 years. These years have been full of disappointments, emotions and failure. I wanted to give up. I actually thought I gave up. But for some reason faith finally decided differently.

I met her.

I hugged her.

And I told her what I wanted to tell her for so long.

This post isn't about how big of a fan I am of hers. No.

I want this post to stand for our dreams, our goals and that NOW I know that dreams do come true.

I know that within each one of us linger unaccomplished dreams. I know that many of us work hard daily to accomplish their personal goals. And sometimes we all feel like giving up. We wonder why are we doing this. For what?..

You might be working so hard and don't see results. You might be working so hard and fail. Many times. And for so long you might not succeed.

But I tell you one thing, it is all worth it. I know it. I have seen it.

It might not come exactly the way you have imagined it for so long, but it will happen in one way or the other.

So my message is: NEVER give up. Dreams DO come true!

With love,

Jess x

Learn how to compliment others and it will change everything.

Why? Because life is short. Life should be positive. Full of positive energy.
Don't you think?

Life is short. Too short to hate. Too short to be jealous at each other. But instead we should embrace who we are and support each other.

I am at a stage in my life, where I feel like I can really choose the people I want to be surrounded by. If I feel any negative energy coming towards me, I cut those people out immediately. It might sound rude initially, but I am not sorry. I am not sorry, that I decided how I want to live my life.

So a few weeks ago I was invited to a friend's party, and I got bombarded with compliments. And no, this is not a post where I want to brag about it. But it opened my eyes. Why? Because it were girls complimenting me. I was surprised. Very, very surprised.

I have never experienced girls complimenting me. Usually I would always receive hate looks, that made me feel even worse about myself. But this time, I felt quite great.

And you know what I realised? It does not cost a thing to compliment one another. But for sure it might change another person's day. It might encourage that person to do the same thing to you or to another person.

Each individual is special and unique and I can't stress the fact enough, that it is important to embrace it at all times. And to accept and inspire one another. 

With love,

Jess x

Forget about your phone once in a while.

I know, I know. Today it is the only way we can stay connected, unfortunately.

But what about that different connection. That "human" connection. Something, that can not be understood, can not be explained, but can only be felt.

Experiencing this deep connection with someone is something so special, that finding the right words to describe this feeling seems impossible. But it exists. If you let it.

And yes, you have to put your phone away for that. 

A world that is dominated by countless dating apps and the importance of social media statutes, we tend to forget that this is all a virtual world we are living in.

Sometimes I wish I could go back to when technology was not taking over the world, and truly interact with people.  Not having the option of "stalking" a person first, before meeting them. Not knowing anything about them and getting to know them face to face. 

Must sound super rare for the most of us, hm?

Well, just recently I just began valuing those kind of moments more, when I realised I had a beautiful interaction with someone else. It opened my eyes for the good. 

We are who we are in real life, and not who are to others on the screen.

With love

Jess x

I was broken.

I am well aware of the fact, that most people that probably see me on Facebook, Instagram or Youtube assume my life is all colourful and amazing.

Guess what? Wrong.

Like most of us, we tend to only show the positive moments in our life on Social Media.

Let's go back to when I felt like nothing made sense anymore.

Last year my ex boyfriend and me broke up after almost two years of relationship. On the one hand I felt released and I realised I could not have made a better choice. On the other hand it hurt. So damn much. I thought he was the one. The one I was going to have an amazing life with.

And to be honest. It took me quite a while to get over it. Especially, because shortly after the break up, he got into a new relationship. At a stage, that I was not even able to get any guy close to me. I have lost all faith.

So, I decided a new chapter was going to begin for me as soon as I go to France to finish my last semesters. I was going to meet new people, have fun and work hard on my dreams. I set very high expectations for that part of my life. But well, as you can imagine, it did not come like that. Instead I found myself in a very depressed state, not wanting to leave, not wanting to see anyone, not knowing how I will survive a second semester in this country.

I was broken. 

Besides feeling like that, I wasn't happy anymore about who I was. I did not like the way I looked, the way I spoke, the way I dressed. Nothing seemed to fit. I hated myself. In my eyes, I was not good enough for this world. 

So the moment I could leave the country to go back home for Christmas and Winter holidays I was so happy. I was happy to have loving people around me again. 

I had a month.

A month to change my mindset again, to work on myself and become the person I wanted to be. I had a lot of time reflecting on my actions. But also to think about the horrible thoughts I have had throughout that time and I realised it was not worth it. 

I realised everything happens from within. All your true thoughts will turn into actions. Expectations won't change anything, actions will. So the mistake I have done was instead of focusing on bettering my life on myself, I put expectations onto other people, which weren't reached. Obviously. They never can.

The message of this post is that we all go through bad moments in life, but only those moments will make us realise certain things and will lead us to better and bigger things. Trust me, I have been through this and I have seen what it can change. 

For this reason: Never stop believing in yourself <3. You are amazing. 

With love, 

Jess x

Never Ever Devalue Yourself.

How many times do we get into a situation where another individual is clearly treating us wrong but we still accept it?

Too many times.

At least in my case.

And it upsets me every time it happens, but I can't help it. I just believe I might deserve it. And it's wrong. So wrong.

But why do we keep devaluing ourselves? Because we believe, we don't have a choice and this is how life is supposed to be. But I tell you one thing. We DO have a choice. Every morning we wake up, we choose how our life can look like.

You have YOUR OWN LIFE in YOUR OWN HANDS.

And this is exactly what we keep forgetting. Life is flexible, and life is made through our choices. We have the power to create our own path. Doesn't that sound amazing? It does.

So from now one I want you think exactly that way. You only deserve the best, and you can choose the best.

With love,

Jess x

Failing big or small. It will happen. And we need to accept it.

Yes, it will. And not only once. And not when you expected it. And maybe you put in all the hard work but it didn't work out the way you imagined.

You know, I consider myself a very ambitious person. I know that when I want to achieve something, I will do everything to do it. A lot of times though, I get upset and disappointed with myself, because I did not live up to my own expectations. And that is the worst thing for me. For longer now I have put what other people think about me last, and instead I focused on what I want and what makes me happy.

But this made me realise how hard I am on myself sometimes. And instead of it actually helping me, it discourages me and I start hating myself for not being better and not living up to my own expectations. It sounds upsetting doesn't it?

These moments happen, when I am convinced I could be better, I could work harder and I should have been better by now. But instead I see myself as a failure of not being where I intended to be.

Today I realised though, that it is part of life. It is part of who we are and it is completely human to not always be satisfied with our own achievements. Actually, it is a good thing, because this will help us grown and become the person we are striving to be day to day.

So my message today is to stop being so hard on yourself and that failing is not a bad thing. It is part of life and it helps us realise how bad we really want to achieve something in life.

With love,

Jess x

Once you meet them and you know that's it - keep them.

Wow. This has been one of the best years of my life so far. And I mean it.

Last year has been truly difficult for me. A year with a lot of ups and downs, trying to be positive and strong when I just didn't feel like it. But I realised I could not let myself down like this anymore. I needed to change. And that is what I did. I changed my attitude. I changed my mind.

This year, I became a new person. I became a new me. With the new and positive attitude I started this year, I did not know what to expect. But I wanted it to be something big. Something I can learn from. Something that will nourish me.

I started attracting people in my life. People, who started to understand me. Who accepted me for who I am and they really, really valued me. They didn't judge me and they listened to me (this is getting me really emotional by the way).

And I am saying this, because for so many years I have felt lost. I have felt like it was so difficult for me to make friends. Real friends. Not just casual "let's go make party" friends. But friends, who really want to see me succeed. And those kind of people, I can not wait to learn from. Those kind of people that I could listen to for the whole day and never get bored. A friendship, which is there to encourage each other. For so long I thought this wouldn't exist, due to countless bad experiences and heartbreaks. But it does. I know it, because of you.

You truly changed me and you made me a better person. And I wanted to say thank you. (You know you who are <3)

With all my love,

Jess x

Find out what makes you unhappy and change it. Really.

Ever found yourself unhappy during your current every day life?
I am pretty sure, yes.

Sometimes there are certain circumstances we find ourselves stuck in and we feel like we can not escape. Trust me, I have been there.

Just yesterday I was talking to one of my best friends and I have seen in her eyes how unhappy she is. She has also admitted it herself, which is very rare for people to do anyways, I believe. But well. It hurt me. She is my best friend and I want her to be happy, obviously. But then I kept asking her, why it might be the case and I realised that the situations she has told me, are situations that have the possibility to be changed. She has the entire power to do something about it. She can be happy again. But this would mean that she might have to risk one thing or another.

And I think this is the biggest problem for most of us. In order for us to finally be happy, we need to do things we would normally fear doing. Only then we can create the life the way we want it to be. That way we can feel pure happiness.

I would like to leave it here, since I'd much rather make you think with what I mean by what I have written.

Think about it and remember you have more power to change things than you think.

With love,

Jess x  

Be confident - cause it’s the only choice you have

I believe that confidence is something that evolves with time, with experiences, with meeting new people and most importantly with stepping out of one’s comfort zone.

I have experienced it though that some people like being in their comfort bubble, with no distractions and no unpleasant surprises. There is people that feel like the most important thing for them is to just be comfortable. This is what makes them happy.

On the other hand, there is people like me and probably you (cause you are reading this for a reason), who can not wait to get out into this world, who are curious about everyone and everything. Who really, really want to grow.

But let me take you back, when everything I am currently doing and living, was literally only a dream in my mind.

I remember when I was about 15 years old, and it was the time for me when I started becoming a woman. Yeah it started quite late, but still. I was becoming one. “Looks” started to be more and more important to me and I started caring about what other people think of me and how they actually perceive me. You know that typical “puberty” phase everyone has to go through. But by that time, I had no confidence. And the funny thing here is, that people might have perceived me as actually being a confident human being  But deep within. Naaah. No confidence. 

What do I mean with deep within? It has been 8 years now since I have felt this way and I started realising that confidence comes from within. It comes from starting to accept yourself for who you really are. Looking at your flaws and loving or even embracing them. Looking at whatever you love about yourself and make it stand out even more. And most importantly, it means to work on yourself every single damn day. Every single day. Which means that making mistakes will be part of it. Mistakes are there to let us grow right? And to let us help understand our actions better in order to make better decisions in the future. But here again, who says that those decisions are better? It’s all our subjective opinion. It is all decisions that shape who we are, shape our personality. And finally help us shape and create the confidence that each one of us should have in order to be a happy human being on this wonderful world.

Only with confidence can we be successful. Only with confidence will we attract the right people into our lives. And only with confidence can we be who we truly feel like being.


I hope you have an inspirational weekend, full of joy, laughter, hard work and confidence :)

With love,

Jess x

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Stop fearing life.

Wow, I never thought I'd actually bring it that far to write a blog post about it myself. But here we are. Here I am, writing about something that I have feared for so long.

Life. 

Life can be scary and overwhelming. Things happen unexpectedly. Things happen and no one can explain why. 

But on my short journey I have started to realise how idiotic it is to fear life and to be scared to actually start living it. A lot of people might actually think they "live" life. But at the end of the day, they might have made some decisions, because they were obliged to, while they didn't make other decisions, due to the fear of the consequences. 

I am not saying to just get out there and be completely fearless.

But I am sure, I am talking to you all of you when I say that there has been moments in life, where you wish you would have acted differently. But you didn't because you were scared. Right? 

These are the moments most of us wish to be able to go back to. Because you know what?

"One day we will be old, and we will remember all the stories that we could have told."

Go out there and enjoy every moment that the universe has given you to be on this wonderful earth. Stop regretting and start living.

With love,

Jess x

Stay true to yourself.

The more I am travelling and the more people I meet, the more I realise how sometimes getting lost is easy. What do I mean with getting lost? - Getting lost within your true self. Loosing your true self. And not being sure who you actually are.

I know this might sound a bit vague, but what I mean with that, is that sometimes it happens, that we discover many facets of our personality, that we haven't known before, due to the reason of us meeting new people regularly. It took me a while to realise that. To realise that sometimes I am not who I actually pretend to be, just because of the people I am around. We want to be liked by everyone, right? So we try to adapt.

Initially, when I realised that, it scared me. It made me envy myself. Somehow, I felt like I wasn't true to myself. I always preach how important it is to be yourself, but then I go out and do something else.

But lately I started to see that this is actually part of a person's individual development. It is part of the process to form the personality you are supposed to have. A person changes, some of those changes might be small while some of those might be radical. But we change, no matter what. And  it is caused by our environment and by how we look at everything. The more we embrace that, the more open we are to explore so many possibilities that will lead us to our destination. A destination that is endless in opportunities for which we should be thankful for.

In case you might have felt a little lost today, I hope it helped you understand, that you are not alone.

With love,

Jess x

High Expectations.

The first thing I feel when I wake up in the morning is the thought of having to prove myself again, not only to myself but also to others. I have to be striving for growth, every day, every hour, every minute. That is what I have been told by society, right? Only growth can make us a better human being. I am expected to be the best version of myself. If I am not, I failed. I disappointed. Who? Myself? No. I am disappointed with the fact that I haven’t been able to keep up with the expectations of society. 

But what is society? Society is you and me. It’s your mother, your father, your neighbour. It’s your teacher, your employer. It’s everyone. We are the reason we moulded life into what it is. We are the reason for hate and war. We are the reason humanity is divided. 

But I have a good message for you. We have the power to break through this cluster of expectations and conflict. Yes we are the cause for today’s society, but we can be the cause to change this mindset of you and me. We have the power to create beauty and acceptance.

To make clear from my side, there is nothing wrong with growth. But there is something wrong with expectations that we can not always keep up with, because we are human beings. And disappointments of unfulfilled expectations create a negative state of mind which can cause a vicious circle of never being good enough and constantly feeling like being under pressure. 

For this reason, I want people to finally start creating the society they truly want to live in. And to follow their dreams and aspirations. And to stop judging people, that are actually on their path of doing so. Because these are the people we should be looking up to.

With love,

Jess x

"Having meaning in life is the most important thing." - #BeInspired

Hello Everyone!

A few days ago I have written a blog post about how important it is to get yourself around people that inspire you and make you a better human being. 

For this reason, I have decided to interview people, that have not only inspired me, but also changed my life. I wanted to share their story with you. Sometimes we are so focused on ourselves, that we tend to forget what is happening around us, and what amazing human beings we are surrounded by. 

The first story is about an incredible woman, that I have met two years ago, when I was doing an internship in South Africa. The second time I have met her, which was last year, we have spent a lot more time with each other. She has honestly left such an impression on me. Her way of living and thinking has shown me that there are sincere and good hearted people in this world. And I wanted to thank her. Especially, because I think, that she doesn’t realise what kind of impact she has had on my life. 

Her name is Danai Mundeta and she is 30 years old. When asking her how old she actually

feels like, she has said between 26 and 28, for the reason that the reality of getting married or starting a family is not there yet. She is currently living in Johannesburg, but she was born and raised in Zimbabwe, which lies on the border with South Africa. 

One trait that Danai has and I noticed from the beginning is that she not only is very responsible and independent, but she can truly call herself a hard working individual. I believe there is many reasons, why she is the woman she is today. Not only is it a cause of her roots and her amazing and supportive parents (which I got to know as well), but also because she grew up in a third world country, which made her see and experience a lot of different things, that people from a first world country can hardly relate to. She believes in hard work and perseverance. And “if you are lazy, nothing will come out.”

One turning point in her life was a very bad relationship and a very bad break up, which changed her in that sense, that she actually discovered herself. She has told me that she was living for other people, instead of herself, which made her loose herself. Furthermore, she started believing that growth wasn’t possible anymore. As a consequence she has learned that

“If you put your focus on yourself and what you want to be and what you want to do, you will see that you are not limited. People can limit you, if you have the wrong person in your life .”

When I asked her about one message, that she would love to share with the world, she answered Love.

“To Love people, Love Yourself first and Love your family.”

But on the other side, people should know their boundaries and other people’s boundaries, especially because you will never ever figure out someone completely. There will be people that will hurt you. But that should not limit yourself.

When I asked what the most important thing in her life is, she said her mother and herself. She believes that having a special journey is important, as well as a meaning in life. Danai is Christian, which is a big part of her life and she knows that living for something is as important. 

I personally have been to South Africa twice for a longer amount of time, which gave me the opportunity to get to know this amazing country. But I wanted to know it from someone that has been living in the country for a long time and for this reason I asked Danai to describe South Africa in three words. She answered:

Beautiful. Busy. Opportunity

She furthermore believes that there is great opportunity in the country, which for me was the first thing that I have seen in South Africa as well. 

Lastly, I wanted to know the one thing she would change in the world if she could and she said Social Media and Phone Cameras. 

“People don’t live life anymore because they are so worried about what people think about them on Social Media. They want to take a picture of their food. People don’t live an experienced moment. People want to be validated by Social Media. They want to check how many likes the have. They want to see if they are pretty, if their shot is right.”

Honestly, I have to agree on this one. How many times do we get caught in front of our screens instead of really living life?.. Too much.

I wanted to thank Danai for taking her time to be part of this project of mine. 

I hope you enjoyed this read.

Have a wonderful inspiring week!

With Love,
Jess x

It is okay to get your heart broken. And I will tell you why.

I know, I know. If your heart has been broken recently, this might probably be the last thing you will want to read. But trust me, keep reading. It won't get worse, I promise.

My heart has been broken. And it is not a long time ago. But long enough, to be able to reflect upon everything. How did it get broken? Well. I was in love with this wonderful human being. But after a good while, things started getting to crumble and well, I think you can imagine what happened. And it wasn't as smooth as it might sound. It was horrible. At least from my side. I felt devastated, I felt lost.

It took me a while to recover. And the moment I thought I was doing great, I have received news, that have brought be down even more. I felt like it could not get worse. I felt like I forgot what happiness is. I felt like I could never be happy again.

These moments are the ones, that no one ever wants to experience. But we tend to forget that these moments are exactly the ones, that teach us something. Not about others, but about ourselves. These are the moments we should embrace and help us make understand who we really are and what we really want. Getting our heart broken is part of the circle of life. It is the moment where we truly feel like we are alive and we feel all those different types of emotions. Emotions that sometimes seem hard to control and which we sometimes want to turn off.

But these moments give you something, that you will never get back. Experience.
Yes. Read Again. Experience.

Just because of the experience we have had 5 years ago, we are the person we are today. Ever thought about that? The experience we are getting and making today, will make us the person we will be in the next 5 years. Even though in the moment, it might seem like the end of the world and nothing makes sense anymore (trust me, I have been there), this moment will fade, slowly, but it will.

Give yourself time. Forgive yourself. And be thankful to be the human you are today. Because experiences form you, they form us. And the decide who we are. And who you are. 

With love,

Jess x

Surround yourself with inspiring people.

Why? Because life is short. And yes I think I keep saying that a lot in my posts. But it is true. It is a reality that so many of us do not understand or do not want to realise. I think each one of us on this planet has its dreams and goals and wants to achieve something bigger in life, right? Well, at least this is what I hope. And in order to become that person, I think it is very significant to choose the people that you surround yourself with, very wisely. You want to be inspired by them and they should make you feel motivated and not the opposite. 

Each person has a different story and comes from a different background. Sometimes we are so busy just focusing on our own life instead of actually looking at the bigger picture in order to get to know other people’s life stories. By surrounding yourself with people that actually care about your story and want to share theirs with you, you can build an incredible bound and you can learn more from each other than you can imagine. But this is a very subjective view of mine. Because this is exactly how I feel, every time I meet an incredible person. A person that I feel can inspire me in being a better person. 

You might agree or disagree with me on this one, obviously this is completely up to you. But give yourself some time to think about it :)

With love,

Jess x

Start loving yourself, damn it.

I can't express how sad it makes me to see so many people struggling to accept themselves for who they are. I mean, sometimes, I am one of them. Sometimes, I do not have energy to wake up in the morning, because the goals I have had yesterday in order to become a better person, somehow today does not seem as important anymore, because I feel miserable.

I am miserable.

I am just not good enough. 

Are these my words? Yes, for sure. Am I the only one saying those words? No, for sure not. 

Whose fault is this? I do not think it is our fault. It is the fault of the society we live in today. The world of Social Media and Advertising that shows us perfect images of humans in order for us to believe that this is how a human being should behave and look like. This world shows only one correct way. And we have to follow this way, because it is the only way for us in order to be successful in life, right? WRONG! Damn it. It is so wrong. And even though most of us would never admit that it actually has influenced us in some kind of way, it has influenced us more than we can imagine. And this is where we stop to love ourselves. We start comparing ourselves to other people or lifestyles. And we start believing that we should be unhappy if our life does not look this way. It's sad, isn't it? Gosh, I do it, too. I get depressed, too looking at perfect images of a person's life. But that is not reality. We should see those people as part of our everyday inspiration, in order to become better human beings, to become better than we have been yesterday. We should not see those people as competition or as factor of our depression. I challenge you to start loving yourself today. To wake up in the morning and find one thing that you are thankful for. If it is the bed you are sleeping in, the food you have had yesterday or the holidays you are looking forward, too. There is so many beautiful reasons in our life to be thankful for. And we should embrace it everyday. And don't forget to smile <3

With love, 

Jess x

Don't wait until tomorrow...

Yes, you read it right. Don't wait. 

Waiting just creates more waiting. And I believe time is the most precious thing that has been given us on this earth. How many times do we postpone stuff, that might or might not be relevant to us. 

If it is the essay you promised yourself you would start 2 weeks ago or the diet you wanted to start last month, or maybe you fell in love with someone and you are scared to finally tell them, you need to remember, every day, every minute and every second, time is passing that we can not get back. No one knows what the next day will bring, so in order to feel fulfilled and to start acting, we have to stop thinking about doing that particular thing and do it instead. Yes, we are all humans and we might be more motivated on one day than the other. But I believe you will truly be happy if you finally start taking those risks, that you have been trying to bury for so long. People rather regret decisions they didn't make over those they did. The most successful people of our lifetime didn't wait! They took those risks and didn't just complain that life is not going how they would like it to go. Because complaining won't take you any step further, instead it will only make you feel more miserable and more unhappy. And no one wants to feel this way, right? In many years we all want to look back at our life and be happy about the life we have had, which was caused by the decisions we made and the risks we took. This is the only way we will truly get to know ourselves and the only way that will make us grow and a better person. 

With love, 

Jess x

Stop running after people that are not worth your time.

How often do we find ourselves stuck in a friendship or situation, where we really like/adore/love another human being, but it seems like the other person does not like/adore/love us back? If it seems like a situation that occurs too often in your life, it does not mean you are needy or anything like that, it just means you care. And even though caring is not a bad thing, it can sometimes make us feel lonely. We have all been there. But honestly? I have reached a point in my life, where I might try for, let’s say, a couple of weeks. But if I feel like all the effort only comes from my side, every single time, I will give up. Not because I stopped caring, but because I believe that life is too short to run after the wrong people. The right people, that are excited to be part of your life, will stay and will make your life even more amazing. You will not have to worry for a single second that you are not good enough for another person, because it will just feel right.

This was a short, but important post from my side.

With love,

Jess x

WARNING: This might change your life

Yesterday I have watched one of my all time favourite movies: 'The Fault in Our Stars'. It is based on a novel, which is also based on a true story. If you have never heard about this book or movie, well have you lived under a rock for the past few years? It is truly a life changing movie.

I do not want to get into details of the storyline, because I would like You to watch it yourself.

So the real question here is:

How did it change me? How did it change my view on life?

To be honest, in the past few weeks, I have felt a little lost in life. I have somehow lost my motivation for all of my biggest passions, and I felt like I have lost all my happiness and in addition to that, I could not really tell why. I mean I have everything, right? A bed, a family and friends and I do not have to starve. Furthermore, life is opening so many doors for opportunities in order to grow and get better every single day. But, I started blaming the cold and snowy weather, since, as most of my friends know, I really really hate. So actually, there was no real reason to feel this down.

But yesterday became a turning point. I realised how precious and short our life on earth actually is. Everyone keeps talking about it, but I feel like the fewest only mean it. Only the people that probably experienced some tragic incident in their life, actually really know how to LIVE life. It is an expression that so many of us talk about daily, though only a small percentage knows the real meaning behind it. I could continue talking about this topic forever, but theory and practise are two complete different things, right? People keep telling me to be patient, since I am so young and there is so much life ahead of me. But how do you know this is true? No one knows what their real destiny is and yes we can work hard for the future, but what if the future is actually in this very moment. This very moment is the current life we should be living. And not the future life, because it is unwritten. It is a book full of blank pages, and no one knows what those pages will consist of. But there is one thing that I will be trying to do daily: to not burn the book down to quickly (I give you room for your own interpretation).

What about you? Have you ever experienced a similar depression mood, and you didn't know for what reason and how to get yourself out of it? And have you had a turning point in your life?

And for now I have one last message:

With love, Jess x

How To Stop Giving A F*

- They say do what you love. But what if no one likes what you are doing? 

Should you still do it? -

Everyone will probably say - YES! It is your life and your choices and bla bla bla. Just the usual that everyone says, right?

It is always easy to tell people to do whatever they love doing without caring about other people's opinion. The theoretical part sounds pretty easy, but what about the practical one? How do you go for whatever is important for you, without listening to the people around you? 

- Step 1 -

Realise that the people that criticise you haven't really achieved anything in their own miserable life. Sounds harsh? But it is true. People that like bringing others down, have a problem with themselves. Most likely, they are super unhappy with themselves, and need to let this frustration out onto someone else. It is difficult for them to accept the fact that there is someone out there working hard in order to achieve their dreams. Because people that work hard every day, do support others and see them as part of inspiration and motivation. There is no room for hate. 

- Step 2 - 

Think back why you started something, why you started following your dream and working hard every single day. What was the reason? Was it, because you wanted to loose weight? Was it because you wanted to prove your Ex Boyfriend that you are better off without him? Or maybe you just wanted to grow as an individual? I am pretty sure that it was something very significant for you. If it was really that important to you in the first place, it shouldn't have lost its importance just because someone criticised you.

- Step 3 -

Surround yourself with interesting individual human beings that bring you further in life and that share a positive energy with you. The more I have personally realised what my real goals are and what I would like to achieve in my life, the more I have cut out specific people and simultaneously started meeting greater people, that inspire me each single day. I always like to mention the Law of Attraction here. If you would like to know more about it, I have done a video about it:

Do you agree with everything I have written here? Let me know. 

And for now I have one last message:

          "If you fuel your journey on the opinions of others, you are going to run out of gas."                   - Dr. Steve Maraboli

With love,

Jess x