About being self centred.

The world is moving so fast.

So, so so fast. That sometimes we can't catch up. At least I can't.

Everyday we are confronted with so much information, that I feel like that is not enough time to process it all. With this, it gets so easy to become self centred, to forget that there is more than just us with our irrelevant, tiny problems.

There is the world.

The world, which is filled with pain, war and poverty.

OR

The world, which is filled with beauty, diversity and humanity.

Which one do you choose? Which one do you want to be surrounded by? Which one do you want to get inspired by?

Let me guess? It is the second one.

But why do we sometimes get caught up in a self centred mindset, where all that matters is us. And we forget that we live with other. And that we are part of other people's lives and vice versa. And that we affect others more than we can imagine.

Open your eyes! Pack your bags and start feeling the world. It has so many more wonderful things to offer than we all can imagine. I am certain about that.

With love,

Jess x

The constant pressure of having to be perfect.

Being perfect is something so absurd and unreal. What is even perfect? What is its definition? I googled it.

having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.

"As good as it is possible to be." See! What is "possible"? What does it mean?

One person might understand it differently than the other.  Everyone has a different perception of things.

We are confronted by so many people telling us daily that we need to be productive and get somewhere in life, quick! Because time is running.. time which we will never get back.

So well that's what we do, every day we hustle. At least the ones that have ambitious goals!

But then.. there is days when the hustle stops to make sense, when all the energy is gone, and all the motivation lost. We start to loose faith, we start to believe we failed.. We failed in everything we wanted to achieve. And we don't see the end of these draining days.

How do you get yourself out of it? Will you ever get yourself out of it?

I believe we do get out of it. It's human, isn't it? We can't constantly be perfectly following our goals that we have been setting ourselves. It is almost impossible, we can try, but we might eventually fail. We need those days, when everything goes to shit, to appreciate the moments, when everything is great again.

With love,

Jess x

Don't rush it. That's what everyone has been telling me.

I am a very impatient person. VERY impatient. I need everything right now!
Which at times surely can be a good thing, cause I go out and get what I want. But life doesn't work that way. Sometimes all we can do is wait. We can work hard towards a goal, but sometimes pushing too hard can just cause more damage.

I am writing this post to actually try to implement what I am about to say. Why?
Because I feel like I am kind of lost at this stage. I have so many goals and dreams in front of my eyes, that they are all just floating around and I have lost the clear path which I have had in front of my eyes for so long.

But I am starting to understand that it is okay. That I am also at a stage, where trying new things is part of growing and getting to know yourself. Only with this kind of feeling, we can slowly find the right way which we want to go in the future. Don't regret anything and take every opportunity that comes along the way. You have all the time in the world and most importantly

DON'T RUSH IT!

With love,

Jess x

Don't force it.

And I mean it. Don't force anything, that isn't suppose to happen in your life. Friendships, Relationships or any other kind of stuff, that seems like it does not come natural.

Just too many times we want something so much, that we get lost in it and we loose so much energy for something that at the end was never worth our time.

I get caught in these situations, not a lot, but every now and again. And it is kind of upsetting and disappointing at first. Especially if you really set your mind on something, but everything you do is not working out the way you imagined it.

So this post is just a quick reminder: remember who you are, remember what you want and do not be distracted by situations that won't bring you any further and won't make you grow.

With love,

Jess x

Successful people build each other up, or not?!

There is this thing, created by our society, which is called competition and which humans believe to be a good thing. 

A good thing, in order to be successful.

But let me tell you one thing, it is wrong to think that way. I mean, well... do what you want, you don't need to listen to what I have to say. But trust me, my little brain wants to say a lot. And especially about this topic. Because it upsets me.  

I am a single child. And no, I am not selfish or spoiled. I was taught not to. Yes, my parents have always supported me in everything I wanted to do, but still. They are not wealthy, have never been and probably never will. They have literally worked (and still do) their butts of to create a better future for their child, me. And I am more than thankful for that.

For this reason, I have also been taught to work hard for myself, to be a better version of myself, for myself. For no one else. And comparing your success to another person's success is not healthy. On the opposite, it can make you depressed.

But for some reason this society was created under the perception that competition is the only way to go. Just look at sports events for example, it is always about being better than your opponent. And yes, it might be needed in one way or the other and it can also be fun.

But there is a fine line between healthy and unhealthy competition. 

And unhealthy competition in my eyes is, when your mental health is involved. Being mentally healthy is so so so important, but we keep destroying it with things like that. Don't you think? I mean as I mentioned before, it might just be my small brain bursting out all my thoughts at the moment.

I am speaking from experience, though. Most people do not want you to succeed, they want you to fail, most of the time. 

Why? If another person succeeds it won't make you any worse, will it? 

Your success is not defined by another person's success, but it only lies in your own hands. 

With love,

Jess x

To those who never give up - dreams DO come true!

The people that know me, know that I have been obsessed with Shakira since I could literally walk, think or speak. With obsessed I mean, that she has had a huge impact on my life, my actions and on who I am today. She has inspired me in many ways, and for this reason I am very thankful.

So since my obsession with this woman started, I have been wanting to meet her. And that became one of my biggest dreams. A dream that I have been trying to accomplish for 16 years. These years have been full of disappointments, emotions and failure. I wanted to give up. I actually thought I gave up. But for some reason faith finally decided differently.

I met her.

I hugged her.

And I told her what I wanted to tell her for so long.

This post isn't about how big of a fan I am of hers. No.

I want this post to stand for our dreams, our goals and that NOW I know that dreams do come true.

I know that within each one of us linger unaccomplished dreams. I know that many of us work hard daily to accomplish their personal goals. And sometimes we all feel like giving up. We wonder why are we doing this. For what?..

You might be working so hard and don't see results. You might be working so hard and fail. Many times. And for so long you might not succeed.

But I tell you one thing, it is all worth it. I know it. I have seen it.

It might not come exactly the way you have imagined it for so long, but it will happen in one way or the other.

So my message is: NEVER give up. Dreams DO come true!

With love,

Jess x

Learn how to compliment others and it will change everything.

Why? Because life is short. Life should be positive. Full of positive energy.
Don't you think?

Life is short. Too short to hate. Too short to be jealous at each other. But instead we should embrace who we are and support each other.

I am at a stage in my life, where I feel like I can really choose the people I want to be surrounded by. If I feel any negative energy coming towards me, I cut those people out immediately. It might sound rude initially, but I am not sorry. I am not sorry, that I decided how I want to live my life.

So a few weeks ago I was invited to a friend's party, and I got bombarded with compliments. And no, this is not a post where I want to brag about it. But it opened my eyes. Why? Because it were girls complimenting me. I was surprised. Very, very surprised.

I have never experienced girls complimenting me. Usually I would always receive hate looks, that made me feel even worse about myself. But this time, I felt quite great.

And you know what I realised? It does not cost a thing to compliment one another. But for sure it might change another person's day. It might encourage that person to do the same thing to you or to another person.

Each individual is special and unique and I can't stress the fact enough, that it is important to embrace it at all times. And to accept and inspire one another. 

With love,

Jess x

Forget about your phone once in a while.

I know, I know. Today it is the only way we can stay connected, unfortunately.

But what about that different connection. That "human" connection. Something, that can not be understood, can not be explained, but can only be felt.

Experiencing this deep connection with someone is something so special, that finding the right words to describe this feeling seems impossible. But it exists. If you let it.

And yes, you have to put your phone away for that. 

A world that is dominated by countless dating apps and the importance of social media statutes, we tend to forget that this is all a virtual world we are living in.

Sometimes I wish I could go back to when technology was not taking over the world, and truly interact with people.  Not having the option of "stalking" a person first, before meeting them. Not knowing anything about them and getting to know them face to face. 

Must sound super rare for the most of us, hm?

Well, just recently I just began valuing those kind of moments more, when I realised I had a beautiful interaction with someone else. It opened my eyes for the good. 

We are who we are in real life, and not who are to others on the screen.

With love

Jess x