Once you meet them and you know that's it - keep them.

Wow. This has been one of the best years of my life so far. And I mean it.

Last year has been truly difficult for me. A year with a lot of ups and downs, trying to be positive and strong when I just didn't feel like it. But I realised I could not let myself down like this anymore. I needed to change. And that is what I did. I changed my attitude. I changed my mind.

This year, I became a new person. I became a new me. With the new and positive attitude I started this year, I did not know what to expect. But I wanted it to be something big. Something I can learn from. Something that will nourish me.

I started attracting people in my life. People, who started to understand me. Who accepted me for who I am and they really, really valued me. They didn't judge me and they listened to me (this is getting me really emotional by the way).

And I am saying this, because for so many years I have felt lost. I have felt like it was so difficult for me to make friends. Real friends. Not just casual "let's go make party" friends. But friends, who really want to see me succeed. And those kind of people, I can not wait to learn from. Those kind of people that I could listen to for the whole day and never get bored. A friendship, which is there to encourage each other. For so long I thought this wouldn't exist, due to countless bad experiences and heartbreaks. But it does. I know it, because of you.

You truly changed me and you made me a better person. And I wanted to say thank you. (You know you who are <3)

With all my love,

Jess x

Find out what makes you unhappy and change it. Really.

Ever found yourself unhappy during your current every day life?
I am pretty sure, yes.

Sometimes there are certain circumstances we find ourselves stuck in and we feel like we can not escape. Trust me, I have been there.

Just yesterday I was talking to one of my best friends and I have seen in her eyes how unhappy she is. She has also admitted it herself, which is very rare for people to do anyways, I believe. But well. It hurt me. She is my best friend and I want her to be happy, obviously. But then I kept asking her, why it might be the case and I realised that the situations she has told me, are situations that have the possibility to be changed. She has the entire power to do something about it. She can be happy again. But this would mean that she might have to risk one thing or another.

And I think this is the biggest problem for most of us. In order for us to finally be happy, we need to do things we would normally fear doing. Only then we can create the life the way we want it to be. That way we can feel pure happiness.

I would like to leave it here, since I'd much rather make you think with what I mean by what I have written.

Think about it and remember you have more power to change things than you think.

With love,

Jess x  

Be confident - cause it’s the only choice you have

I believe that confidence is something that evolves with time, with experiences, with meeting new people and most importantly with stepping out of one’s comfort zone.

I have experienced it though that some people like being in their comfort bubble, with no distractions and no unpleasant surprises. There is people that feel like the most important thing for them is to just be comfortable. This is what makes them happy.

On the other hand, there is people like me and probably you (cause you are reading this for a reason), who can not wait to get out into this world, who are curious about everyone and everything. Who really, really want to grow.

But let me take you back, when everything I am currently doing and living, was literally only a dream in my mind.

I remember when I was about 15 years old, and it was the time for me when I started becoming a woman. Yeah it started quite late, but still. I was becoming one. “Looks” started to be more and more important to me and I started caring about what other people think of me and how they actually perceive me. You know that typical “puberty” phase everyone has to go through. But by that time, I had no confidence. And the funny thing here is, that people might have perceived me as actually being a confident human being  But deep within. Naaah. No confidence. 

What do I mean with deep within? It has been 8 years now since I have felt this way and I started realising that confidence comes from within. It comes from starting to accept yourself for who you really are. Looking at your flaws and loving or even embracing them. Looking at whatever you love about yourself and make it stand out even more. And most importantly, it means to work on yourself every single damn day. Every single day. Which means that making mistakes will be part of it. Mistakes are there to let us grow right? And to let us help understand our actions better in order to make better decisions in the future. But here again, who says that those decisions are better? It’s all our subjective opinion. It is all decisions that shape who we are, shape our personality. And finally help us shape and create the confidence that each one of us should have in order to be a happy human being on this wonderful world.

Only with confidence can we be successful. Only with confidence will we attract the right people into our lives. And only with confidence can we be who we truly feel like being.


I hope you have an inspirational weekend, full of joy, laughter, hard work and confidence :)

With love,

Jess x

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Stop fearing life.

Wow, I never thought I'd actually bring it that far to write a blog post about it myself. But here we are. Here I am, writing about something that I have feared for so long.

Life. 

Life can be scary and overwhelming. Things happen unexpectedly. Things happen and no one can explain why. 

But on my short journey I have started to realise how idiotic it is to fear life and to be scared to actually start living it. A lot of people might actually think they "live" life. But at the end of the day, they might have made some decisions, because they were obliged to, while they didn't make other decisions, due to the fear of the consequences. 

I am not saying to just get out there and be completely fearless.

But I am sure, I am talking to you all of you when I say that there has been moments in life, where you wish you would have acted differently. But you didn't because you were scared. Right? 

These are the moments most of us wish to be able to go back to. Because you know what?

"One day we will be old, and we will remember all the stories that we could have told."

Go out there and enjoy every moment that the universe has given you to be on this wonderful earth. Stop regretting and start living.

With love,

Jess x

Stay true to yourself.

The more I am travelling and the more people I meet, the more I realise how sometimes getting lost is easy. What do I mean with getting lost? - Getting lost within your true self. Loosing your true self. And not being sure who you actually are.

I know this might sound a bit vague, but what I mean with that, is that sometimes it happens, that we discover many facets of our personality, that we haven't known before, due to the reason of us meeting new people regularly. It took me a while to realise that. To realise that sometimes I am not who I actually pretend to be, just because of the people I am around. We want to be liked by everyone, right? So we try to adapt.

Initially, when I realised that, it scared me. It made me envy myself. Somehow, I felt like I wasn't true to myself. I always preach how important it is to be yourself, but then I go out and do something else.

But lately I started to see that this is actually part of a person's individual development. It is part of the process to form the personality you are supposed to have. A person changes, some of those changes might be small while some of those might be radical. But we change, no matter what. And  it is caused by our environment and by how we look at everything. The more we embrace that, the more open we are to explore so many possibilities that will lead us to our destination. A destination that is endless in opportunities for which we should be thankful for.

In case you might have felt a little lost today, I hope it helped you understand, that you are not alone.

With love,

Jess x