Start loving yourself, damn it.

I can't express how sad it makes me to see so many people struggling to accept themselves for who they are. I mean, sometimes, I am one of them. Sometimes, I do not have energy to wake up in the morning, because the goals I have had yesterday in order to become a better person, somehow today does not seem as important anymore, because I feel miserable.

I am miserable.

I am just not good enough. 

Are these my words? Yes, for sure. Am I the only one saying those words? No, for sure not. 

Whose fault is this? I do not think it is our fault. It is the fault of the society we live in today. The world of Social Media and Advertising that shows us perfect images of humans in order for us to believe that this is how a human being should behave and look like. This world shows only one correct way. And we have to follow this way, because it is the only way for us in order to be successful in life, right? WRONG! Damn it. It is so wrong. And even though most of us would never admit that it actually has influenced us in some kind of way, it has influenced us more than we can imagine. And this is where we stop to love ourselves. We start comparing ourselves to other people or lifestyles. And we start believing that we should be unhappy if our life does not look this way. It's sad, isn't it? Gosh, I do it, too. I get depressed, too looking at perfect images of a person's life. But that is not reality. We should see those people as part of our everyday inspiration, in order to become better human beings, to become better than we have been yesterday. We should not see those people as competition or as factor of our depression. I challenge you to start loving yourself today. To wake up in the morning and find one thing that you are thankful for. If it is the bed you are sleeping in, the food you have had yesterday or the holidays you are looking forward, too. There is so many beautiful reasons in our life to be thankful for. And we should embrace it everyday. And don't forget to smile <3

With love, 

Jess x

Don't wait until tomorrow...

Yes, you read it right. Don't wait. 

Waiting just creates more waiting. And I believe time is the most precious thing that has been given us on this earth. How many times do we postpone stuff, that might or might not be relevant to us. 

If it is the essay you promised yourself you would start 2 weeks ago or the diet you wanted to start last month, or maybe you fell in love with someone and you are scared to finally tell them, you need to remember, every day, every minute and every second, time is passing that we can not get back. No one knows what the next day will bring, so in order to feel fulfilled and to start acting, we have to stop thinking about doing that particular thing and do it instead. Yes, we are all humans and we might be more motivated on one day than the other. But I believe you will truly be happy if you finally start taking those risks, that you have been trying to bury for so long. People rather regret decisions they didn't make over those they did. The most successful people of our lifetime didn't wait! They took those risks and didn't just complain that life is not going how they would like it to go. Because complaining won't take you any step further, instead it will only make you feel more miserable and more unhappy. And no one wants to feel this way, right? In many years we all want to look back at our life and be happy about the life we have had, which was caused by the decisions we made and the risks we took. This is the only way we will truly get to know ourselves and the only way that will make us grow and a better person. 

With love, 

Jess x

Stop running after people that are not worth your time.

How often do we find ourselves stuck in a friendship or situation, where we really like/adore/love another human being, but it seems like the other person does not like/adore/love us back? If it seems like a situation that occurs too often in your life, it does not mean you are needy or anything like that, it just means you care. And even though caring is not a bad thing, it can sometimes make us feel lonely. We have all been there. But honestly? I have reached a point in my life, where I might try for, let’s say, a couple of weeks. But if I feel like all the effort only comes from my side, every single time, I will give up. Not because I stopped caring, but because I believe that life is too short to run after the wrong people. The right people, that are excited to be part of your life, will stay and will make your life even more amazing. You will not have to worry for a single second that you are not good enough for another person, because it will just feel right.

This was a short, but important post from my side.

With love,

Jess x

WARNING: This might change your life

Yesterday I have watched one of my all time favourite movies: 'The Fault in Our Stars'. It is based on a novel, which is also based on a true story. If you have never heard about this book or movie, well have you lived under a rock for the past few years? It is truly a life changing movie.

I do not want to get into details of the storyline, because I would like You to watch it yourself.

So the real question here is:

How did it change me? How did it change my view on life?

To be honest, in the past few weeks, I have felt a little lost in life. I have somehow lost my motivation for all of my biggest passions, and I felt like I have lost all my happiness and in addition to that, I could not really tell why. I mean I have everything, right? A bed, a family and friends and I do not have to starve. Furthermore, life is opening so many doors for opportunities in order to grow and get better every single day. But, I started blaming the cold and snowy weather, since, as most of my friends know, I really really hate. So actually, there was no real reason to feel this down.

But yesterday became a turning point. I realised how precious and short our life on earth actually is. Everyone keeps talking about it, but I feel like the fewest only mean it. Only the people that probably experienced some tragic incident in their life, actually really know how to LIVE life. It is an expression that so many of us talk about daily, though only a small percentage knows the real meaning behind it. I could continue talking about this topic forever, but theory and practise are two complete different things, right? People keep telling me to be patient, since I am so young and there is so much life ahead of me. But how do you know this is true? No one knows what their real destiny is and yes we can work hard for the future, but what if the future is actually in this very moment. This very moment is the current life we should be living. And not the future life, because it is unwritten. It is a book full of blank pages, and no one knows what those pages will consist of. But there is one thing that I will be trying to do daily: to not burn the book down to quickly (I give you room for your own interpretation).

What about you? Have you ever experienced a similar depression mood, and you didn't know for what reason and how to get yourself out of it? And have you had a turning point in your life?

And for now I have one last message:

With love, Jess x

How To Stop Giving A F*

- They say do what you love. But what if no one likes what you are doing? 

Should you still do it? -

Everyone will probably say - YES! It is your life and your choices and bla bla bla. Just the usual that everyone says, right?

It is always easy to tell people to do whatever they love doing without caring about other people's opinion. The theoretical part sounds pretty easy, but what about the practical one? How do you go for whatever is important for you, without listening to the people around you? 

- Step 1 -

Realise that the people that criticise you haven't really achieved anything in their own miserable life. Sounds harsh? But it is true. People that like bringing others down, have a problem with themselves. Most likely, they are super unhappy with themselves, and need to let this frustration out onto someone else. It is difficult for them to accept the fact that there is someone out there working hard in order to achieve their dreams. Because people that work hard every day, do support others and see them as part of inspiration and motivation. There is no room for hate. 

- Step 2 - 

Think back why you started something, why you started following your dream and working hard every single day. What was the reason? Was it, because you wanted to loose weight? Was it because you wanted to prove your Ex Boyfriend that you are better off without him? Or maybe you just wanted to grow as an individual? I am pretty sure that it was something very significant for you. If it was really that important to you in the first place, it shouldn't have lost its importance just because someone criticised you.

- Step 3 -

Surround yourself with interesting individual human beings that bring you further in life and that share a positive energy with you. The more I have personally realised what my real goals are and what I would like to achieve in my life, the more I have cut out specific people and simultaneously started meeting greater people, that inspire me each single day. I always like to mention the Law of Attraction here. If you would like to know more about it, I have done a video about it:

Do you agree with everything I have written here? Let me know. 

And for now I have one last message:

          "If you fuel your journey on the opinions of others, you are going to run out of gas."                   - Dr. Steve Maraboli

With love,

Jess x