Now.

From the early stages of our lives we are told to do certain things that our future self will thank us for. Society tells us how we have to behave today, so tomorrow can be better. And how we can learn from the past, so we won’t make the same mistakes in the future again. 

So basically I have been focusing on my past (to learn from it) and my future. Every day I am working hard towards my future goals, which, don’t understand me wrong, can be a great thing. But what if we are so stuck in working so hard towards our future, that we never really reach the actual future we were looking for. We tend to overlook how far we have come and not realise that we might have already reached certain goals we have been working on 5 years ago. 

Today. Today, I am in Barcelona. 4 years ago, I have always wanted to come here. And I never thought it would be possible. But here I am. I am on my way of receiving a double degree in Business Management and Marketing, which allowed me to literally travel the world. Which I have also been dreaming about 4 years ago. And many many years ago I have always dreamt of meeting my biggest inspiration, and I did. 

But why do I keep wanting more? Why is ‘today” never enough for me and I feel like I have not accomplished anything? 

I have been trying to figure it out and well I guess I just live too much in the future or/and the past, like most of us. But it is definitely not our fault, because that is what we have been taught. Since this small realisation of mine, I am trying to change the direction of my thoughts, trying to live in the moment, trying to be thankful everyday for what I have reached so far. Of course keeping in mind my future, and working with the intention to always reach the goals I have set myself. 

But, no one knows what the future holds and no one knows how their story is written. 

With love,

Jess x

Life is a journey of lessons.

A few weeks ago I was on a hype. You know when you are on a really good wave in life! That wave keeps getting bigger, because it seems like life is getting better. Everything I have ever imagined was becoming a reality.

It even scared me. A moment came where I was wondering when this amazing wave would end. Well maybe I shouldn't have. Apparently everything we imagine, we attract.

And here we are. One bad message keeps following another and the amount of information that keeps hitting me daily is overflowing the capacity of the pot I am carrying around.

I am getting to a point where I start asking myself what the purpose of all this is. I know life is supposed to teach us something. But sometimes when we think we have actually achieved something in life, we might be woken up the very next moment, realising it was not at all what we have imagined. And one saying pops up in my mind.  Not everything that shines is gold.

Sometimes we keep doing things, which in our eyes seem right, but through another person might not think that way at all.

And it all leads us to one thing: life is a journey of lessons. Things happen which we can't control even though we wish we could. We will do things that primarily seem right to us, which at the end are not at all. But we will never know if we don't try, right?

But the most important thing is to not blame ourselves for some things, which we can't repair or do differently. Because this is what life is about.

With love,

Jess x

About being self centred.

The world is moving so fast.

So, so so fast. That sometimes we can't catch up. At least I can't.

Everyday we are confronted with so much information, that I feel like that is not enough time to process it all. With this, it gets so easy to become self centred, to forget that there is more than just us with our irrelevant, tiny problems.

There is the world.

The world, which is filled with pain, war and poverty.

OR

The world, which is filled with beauty, diversity and humanity.

Which one do you choose? Which one do you want to be surrounded by? Which one do you want to get inspired by?

Let me guess? It is the second one.

But why do we sometimes get caught up in a self centred mindset, where all that matters is us. And we forget that we live with other. And that we are part of other people's lives and vice versa. And that we affect others more than we can imagine.

Open your eyes! Pack your bags and start feeling the world. It has so many more wonderful things to offer than we all can imagine. I am certain about that.

With love,

Jess x

The constant pressure of having to be perfect.

Being perfect is something so absurd and unreal. What is even perfect? What is its definition? I googled it.

having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.

"As good as it is possible to be." See! What is "possible"? What does it mean?

One person might understand it differently than the other.  Everyone has a different perception of things.

We are confronted by so many people telling us daily that we need to be productive and get somewhere in life, quick! Because time is running.. time which we will never get back.

So well that's what we do, every day we hustle. At least the ones that have ambitious goals!

But then.. there is days when the hustle stops to make sense, when all the energy is gone, and all the motivation lost. We start to loose faith, we start to believe we failed.. We failed in everything we wanted to achieve. And we don't see the end of these draining days.

How do you get yourself out of it? Will you ever get yourself out of it?

I believe we do get out of it. It's human, isn't it? We can't constantly be perfectly following our goals that we have been setting ourselves. It is almost impossible, we can try, but we might eventually fail. We need those days, when everything goes to shit, to appreciate the moments, when everything is great again.

With love,

Jess x

Don't rush it. That's what everyone has been telling me.

I am a very impatient person. VERY impatient. I need everything right now!
Which at times surely can be a good thing, cause I go out and get what I want. But life doesn't work that way. Sometimes all we can do is wait. We can work hard towards a goal, but sometimes pushing too hard can just cause more damage.

I am writing this post to actually try to implement what I am about to say. Why?
Because I feel like I am kind of lost at this stage. I have so many goals and dreams in front of my eyes, that they are all just floating around and I have lost the clear path which I have had in front of my eyes for so long.

But I am starting to understand that it is okay. That I am also at a stage, where trying new things is part of growing and getting to know yourself. Only with this kind of feeling, we can slowly find the right way which we want to go in the future. Don't regret anything and take every opportunity that comes along the way. You have all the time in the world and most importantly

DON'T RUSH IT!

With love,

Jess x

Don't force it.

And I mean it. Don't force anything, that isn't suppose to happen in your life. Friendships, Relationships or any other kind of stuff, that seems like it does not come natural.

Just too many times we want something so much, that we get lost in it and we loose so much energy for something that at the end was never worth our time.

I get caught in these situations, not a lot, but every now and again. And it is kind of upsetting and disappointing at first. Especially if you really set your mind on something, but everything you do is not working out the way you imagined it.

So this post is just a quick reminder: remember who you are, remember what you want and do not be distracted by situations that won't bring you any further and won't make you grow.

With love,

Jess x

Successful people build each other up, or not?!

There is this thing, created by our society, which is called competition and which humans believe to be a good thing. 

A good thing, in order to be successful.

But let me tell you one thing, it is wrong to think that way. I mean, well... do what you want, you don't need to listen to what I have to say. But trust me, my little brain wants to say a lot. And especially about this topic. Because it upsets me.  

I am a single child. And no, I am not selfish or spoiled. I was taught not to. Yes, my parents have always supported me in everything I wanted to do, but still. They are not wealthy, have never been and probably never will. They have literally worked (and still do) their butts of to create a better future for their child, me. And I am more than thankful for that.

For this reason, I have also been taught to work hard for myself, to be a better version of myself, for myself. For no one else. And comparing your success to another person's success is not healthy. On the opposite, it can make you depressed.

But for some reason this society was created under the perception that competition is the only way to go. Just look at sports events for example, it is always about being better than your opponent. And yes, it might be needed in one way or the other and it can also be fun.

But there is a fine line between healthy and unhealthy competition. 

And unhealthy competition in my eyes is, when your mental health is involved. Being mentally healthy is so so so important, but we keep destroying it with things like that. Don't you think? I mean as I mentioned before, it might just be my small brain bursting out all my thoughts at the moment.

I am speaking from experience, though. Most people do not want you to succeed, they want you to fail, most of the time. 

Why? If another person succeeds it won't make you any worse, will it? 

Your success is not defined by another person's success, but it only lies in your own hands. 

With love,

Jess x